Planned Romance

You know how movies and books always show crazy, spontaneous acts of love that come at the perfect time and are far beyond the expectations of the person receiving them?

This is not real life.

But before you go lowering your expectations for the romance in your relationship, there are ways to keep the butterflies alive! It's just going to take a little more work and planning than they shown in romantic comedies.

Planning romantic times with your significant other is not cheating the system. We live in the real world where everyone is busy with careers, kids, PTA, soccer games, church, events, the list goes on and on. Here are some tips on planning for romance and the benefits that will follow:

Designated Date Night: Pick a night, it doesn't have to be Friday, and give it the name "Date Night." No cell phones, no iPads, no distractions. If you have kids, book a babysitter for that night from now until forever. You and your significant other NEED this. Think of it as an investment in your future happiness.

Make A List of Practical and Dream Dates: If you wait until an hour before your date and say, "What do you want to do?" it's an instant mood killer. Sit down together and come up with a list of practical dates that you both enjoy. For example, the zoo, the aquarium, a museum, browsing the book store, taking a cooking class, etc. Then make a list of Dream Dates that you will have once every couple of months. These are the more extravagant dates that you couldn't do on a weekly basis. Now schedule a week in advance.

Schedule Sex: This sounds like the most unromantic thing on the planet, but if you can't even remember the last time you got it on, obviously the spontaneous sessions aren't working. Plus, knowing all day that you're going to get lucky that night is going to put you in the mood! If you're skeptical, try it, and see how you feel after. (Hint: You'll feel great.)

Planning Leads To Surprises: When you're working to keep the romance alive, you and your partner are more likely to be in the mood to surprise each other. You may want to take one date night in the month and make it a secret date that you know the other will just die over. You may start see impromptu romantic acts, no matter how small, from your spouse.

The bottom line is you have to make a conscious decision to improve the romance in your relationship. Nothing magical is going to happen without a little bit of hard work.

5 Ways To Avoid Financial Issues in Your Relationship

We recorded our fourth podcast today and discussed the concept of "Financial Cheating" in which a partner hides money, lies about purchases, has a secret bank account, etc. (The Janeen and Tia Show Podcasts can be found on iTunes or here)

We came up with 5 ways you can avoid the arguments, contention, and sometimes divorces that can happen from not having open communication about your finances!

1 - Write Down Your Financial Goals Together: This will hold you accountable. If you and your significant other sit down and discuss what you want your future together to look like, it will give you something to work toward as a team.

2 - Go To A Financial Advisor Together: This can also include going to financial seminars, reading books, listening to audio programs, etc. There are so many ways to learn about finances, why not set yourself up for success? Learn how to budget and handle your money in a smart way! And the most important part is to do it together.

3 - Don't Let Money Be A Stress... Talk About It: If you are consistently discussing where you stand financially with your partner, stress about money will be eliminated. When you're on the same page and know exactly where your money is going, you don't have to worry about how the next bill will be paid.

4 - Save Receipts: Yes, this seems old school, but the act of having to ask for your receipt when you make a purchase and then file it away makes you more aware of what you're spending. It's the same concept as some people preferring cash to cards because they can actually see how much they have and what they are putting out. Having a stack of receipts in front of you is much more powerful than looking at your purchases on a computer screen.

5 - Have One Day A Month For Financial Planning: Put it on your calendar and follow through! Sit down with your partner, pull out the receipts, pull out your budget, and see how much closer you are to your goals. This doesn't have to be a stressful meeting either. If you have been following up throughout the month, there will be no surprises. Keep yourselves accountable!

Introducing... The Janeen and Tia Show Podcast!

Check out our very first podcast! The Janeen and Tia Show is all about relationships, marriage, divorce, dating, self-improvement, etc. It's a lot of good info and a lot of fun!

You can listen to the podcast at http://janeenandtia.podbean.com/ or go to iTunes, search The Janeen and Tia Show, and download!

Expect a new podcast every Thursday! 

Upcoming Podcasts!

First of all, make sure to watch Janeen's video for Tip #5 in her series, What A Woman Needs From Her Husband! You can watch it here along with the previous 4 tips. Be sure to subscribe to our You Tube Channel while you're there!

This Thursday we are kicking off our Podcast series! We're very excited about this and know it will be entertaining, informational, and inspirational. Here are some things you can expect from our podcasts:

-Everything relationships, divorce, dating, marriage, positivity, etc.
-Discussions about current events that relate to any of our topics.
-Guests from counselors, to motivational speakers, to organizational experts!
-New, helpful content from Janeen and Tia about a number of relationship topics
-Offers and specials from Janeen & Tia and Save Your Marriage in 30
-Plus so much more!

You will know the second we get everything launched and we can't wait for you to tune in!

YOUR WEEKEND CHALLENGE... If you choose to accept it...

Is to eat AT LEAST one meal a day (preferably dinner) at your table... without any TV or electronics. GASP! We know, you likely only enjoy eating if you're being entertained, but think of your significant other as your entertainment for the night.

Here are the benefits:

1 - Instead of just the highlights, you'll get to know about the little things that happened in their day. This can lend a lot of insight into how they're truly feeling about life. And this is all about getting to know each other and being a team.

2 - You are practicing the big C word... Communication. You may sit in silence for a lot of it only serenaded by the sound of chewing, but the more you do it, the better you'll get. Pretty soon you'll have plenty to talk about and actually look forward to that time when you can enjoy dinner, your partner, and some conversation.

3 - This just might help you eat healthier! Without the distraction of television you have to pay attention to what you're eating. You're not mindlessly shoveling food in your mouth. You'll be more aware of when you're full. So really, eating dinner at the table with your significant other just might make you more healthy!

We have begun a new video series called: What A Woman Needs From Her Husband!

A new tip will be posted each Tuesday with 7 videos total. 3 tips have been released so far!

Subscribe to our YouTube Channel HERE and watch the first 3 tips! 

This series will be followed by: What A Man Needs From His Wife. Enjoy and keep improving!

Register now for our August 10, 2012 Seminar!

We are very excited to offer our very first seminar "Love Your Partner, Fix Yourself: A Chance To Recommit"! The event will be August 10, 2012. Come on your own or with your spouse. There is special pricing for couples! Click HERE to register!

Challenge Wednesday 1/11/11

Welcome to Challenge Wednesday! Today we are focusing on

Day 3: Make a list of all of the ways divorce would change your life

This can be a simple pros and cons list. And be honest with yourself! When you're in the mindset of wanting to end your marriage it's easy to come up with all of the great things you expect to have on the other side; however, there are negative ramifications you may not have considered before. You just may have to give up everything about the current life you have.

To start your Save Your Marriage in 30 Challenge visit saveyourmarriagein30.com and click "Videos". Good luck!

Breaking News Monday 1/9/11

Happy Monday everyone! We know everyone is getting back into the swing of things after the holidays so we have just one piece of breaking news for you today.

Save Your Marriage in 30 by Janeen Diamond is now available at all Salt Lake City, UT Barnes and Nobles bookstores! 

If it's not available at a store near you they would be happy to order it for you! And don't forget amazon.com and saveyourmarriagein30.com.

With a new year comes new opportunity! Take this opportunity to better your relationship!

Challenge Wednesday 1/4/11

Welcome back to Challenge Wednesday!
Today we're focusing on:

Day 7: Reminisce about your marriage


Again we're talking about the power of positive thinking!
Go to a your quiet spot, pull out the old photo albums and remember all of the great times in your marriage. Remember your wedding day and what you were feeling. Go back even farther to when you were dating and just getting to know each other. Harness those positive feelings so you know exactly what you're fighting to save.

When you're going through a rough patch in your relationship it's easy to forget all of the great things that it has given you. Think only about the positive and let that drive your desire to keep it together.

See you for Q&A Friday! Get your questions in through Facebook, Twitter or email us at saveyourmarriagein30@gmail.com

Q&A Friday 12/30/11

Today's question came to us through email: "On the 5-CD Set you guys talk about not gossiping about marriage problems to a lot of people. I, unfortunately, have discussed my marriage issues with a lot of friends over the past year and now I constantly have people asking me questions and wanting to find out new details. How do I correct this?"

This is a topic we thought a lot of people might be struggling with. It is SO important to keep your conversations about your marriage problems between yourself and your spouse because that keeps your communication open. When you start involving other people it's really easy for your friends to take your side making it difficult for you to see changes you might need to make.

If you need some outside advice, choose ONE very loyal, very mature friend that will give it to you straight.

As for your other friends, put your foot down. Just say, "I'm really working on fixing the problems in my marriage and that means only discussing them with my spouse. It doesn't help to gossip about them, so please respect my choice." If your friend only wants to talk about the negative, maybe they weren't really a true friend to begin with.

Thank you for your questions! You can get them to us through email, facebook, twitter, or this blog!
See you next week!

Challenge Wednesday 12/28/11

Welcome to Challenge Wednesday! This post is for those who have kids. Today we are focusing on:

Day 18: Talk to your kids


No matter what age your kids are, if they know about the possibility of divorce between you and your spouse, talk openly with them about how they are feeling. They are going to be greatly affected by this decision either way and they deserve a chance to give their input.

If your kids are small or don't know that you have been discussing divorce, just talk openly about how they are feeling in general. Ask how they feel about the family right now, whether or not they are happy with the way things are.

Children are very intuitive and probably know a lot more about the situation than you think they do. Keep them high on the priority list!

To start your 30-Day Challenge go to saveyourmarriagein30.com and click "Videos".

See you for Q&A Friday!

Breaking News Monday 12/26/11

No matter what you are celebrating this time of year we hope you are having a wonderful holiday season!

Since we're in the middle of the holidays we don't really have "Breaking News" this week, but we wanted to take this opportunity to say thanks.

Thank you to those who have been so supportive this year as we have launched this project. Anyone who has tried to start your own business knows the difficulties that can arise in the process, but we have been blessed with great opportunities: TV appearances, book signings, and most importantly, supportive people who have really taken an interest in us. 

2012 is going to be a wonderful year and we hope to help many, many people save their marriages, improve their relationships, and improve themselves!

Thank you and see you on Challenge Wednesday!
Have a wonderful New Year!

Merry Christmas!

Merry Christmas to everyone from Save Your Marriage in 30!

2012 is going to be a super exciting year and we can't wait to announce what we have planned! 

Challenge Wednesday 12/21/11

Hey everybody! It's time for Challenge Wednesday! Today we're focusing on:

Day 5: Have a conversation with your spouse about your marriage

Sound too simple? You would be surprised how little your spouse may know about what's really bothering you. And there also may be some things you don't know that you need to change. You may think the problems should be obvious and maybe you and your spouse have discussed it a million times, but HOW did you say it?

Take a drive or sit down in a quiet place. STAY CALM. STAY FOCUSED. Without accusing each other, discuss what changes need to be made. Get it all out on the table. If you approach this conversation from a loving place, you may just get somewhere.

To start your 30-Day Challenge go to saveyourmarriagein30.com and click "Videos". You will also find a more detailed version in Janeen's new book "Save Your Marriage in 30"!

Breaking News Monday 12/19/11

First of all, thank you to everyone who stopped by for the book signing on Saturday at the University Mall! We loved seeing all of you and had a great time! You will have another opportunity to attend a book signing in January.

Now for Breaking News...

We are now offering great deals on our website saveyourmarriagein30.com. Not only can you buy the newly released "Save Your Marriage in 30" by Janeen Diamond, you can get a package deal with the book and CD-Set for as little as $44.99!

Just to clarify, the CD-Set is NOT an audiobook. Both the book and the CD-Set cover the 30-Day Challenge, but each has its own unique segments and chapters. Visit the website to order yours now!

See you on Challenge Wednesday!

Challenge Wednesday - 12/14/11

Welcome to Challenge Wednesday! Today we're focusing on Day 17 of the 30-Day Challenge. This day is a difficult one that requires you to really take a hard look at yourself and your reasons for contemplating divorce.

Day 17: Answer the question: "Am I being selfish?"

Like a lot of things, writing your answer down will help you organize your thoughts. Are you considering the well-being of everyone that will be affected by your divorce? Are you truly willing to work hard at saving your marriage and doing everything possible to keep it together?

Visit our website saveyourmarriagein30.com to start your 30-day Challenge and get your own copy of Save Your Marriage in 30 by Janeen Diamond which gives even more insight into each day of the challenge as well as other helpful exercises.

See you for Q&A Friday!

Breaking News Monday 12-12-11

Welcome to another week! We have one very important piece of news today... We have another book signing this Saturday (12-17-11)!


-Location: University Mall in Orem, UT right in front of Aeropostale.
-Address: 575 E. University Parkway. 
-Time: 1:00-6:00 PM


We had a great time at our very first book signing last week at Janeen's home and we expect to see even more of you this weekend! 


Here's a pic from last week's signing:

The benefits of coming to a book signing are:

1. We get to meet you! :)

2. The book (paperback and hardcover) as well as the CD-set are offered at a discounted price!

And remember to get your questions in for Q&A Friday! Just email us or message us on Facebook. 

See you there!

Q&A Friday 12-9-11

Happy Friday everyone! We don't have a video today, but the question we'll be looking at has to do with the subject of our last post.

"Is Janeen planning on doing any book signings in other states? I've been working on the free challenge on the website and am planning on buying the book. I'd like to do it at a book signing if I can! Thanks!"

Great question! We're happy to see that Save Your Marriage in 30 is spreading and helping people!

So far book signings are only scheduled in Utah, but you never know! We certainly hope to start getting to other places and connecting with more people. We had our very first book signing last night at Janeen's home which was a blast! A big thank you to everyone who attended. Here is a picture before the festivities started:

Our next book signing will be at the University Mall in Orem, UT on December 17th. We are also working on the final details for a one-hour workshop + book signing at Utah Valley University sometime in January. We hope as many people can get there as possible!

As for other states, the best thing you can do is tell people about the book and the program! Send them to saveyourmarriagein30.com so they can start their free 30-Day Challenge. The more people we have in an area wanting a book signing the more possible it is!

Thank you for your question! We'll see you on Breaking News Monday!

Book Signings!

Today's Challenge Wednesday is being replaced by a big announcement! Save Your Marriage in 30 by Janeen Diamond is now available! You can order it through our website saveyourmarriagein30.com or attend one of our book signings so we can meet you! The video below explains where our first book signing will be and there are many more to follow!

Also, we have a brand new website! So visit saveyourmarriagein30.com and check out the new layout!